I’m not sure if this is the right place but me and my friend group have lately become privacy conscious and wanted to stop using discord and other types of social media, and only log onto self hosted options that only we can access.
we’ve eliminated something like Revolt (now named Stoat due to it missing ideal features and the developers being anti-decentralized (as well as being extremely hostile to the userbase noticably…)
Does anyone have any idea what would be an ideal service to use?
You could use Matrix but it is very finicky and complicated.
You could use XMPP but they don’t have any nice clients.
You could use Zulip but it’s confusing as fuck to navigate.
You could use Mattermost but it’s tied to a corporation that seems intent on removing features from the open source version to convince you to buy a license.
You could use Quiet (not self-hosted but p2p) but it’s very new and very Alpha.
You can use NextCloud Talk but that’s probably more than you need, and it seems to be very difficult to maintain for many.
I won’t engage in any arguments, these are just my opinions, and options for OP.
You could use matrix and host your own instance.
we’ve thought about this but the documentation isn’t user friendly for self hosting. we’re generally worried about undesirable people finding it which would not be good.
https://github.com/spantaleev/matrix-docker-ansible-deploy
Disable registrations and just create your own users manually.



