

Those tips will help me in the future. I would like to say I’m not an idiot and maybe it’s how I see things vs others. Something I find interesting anyway, like I can’t visualise anything in my minds eye and find it shocking people can picture say a red apple.
I did judge you for you mum comment, but if she’s a horrible person perhaps make some distance between you two if possible. I’ve come to realise most my family have horrible views and it sucks.

As someone with a shitty past but I would say shittier due to parents being shit rather than hostile like yours seem.
I’m come to accept that my parents made mistake and as the eldest those mistakes have shaped who I am, the good and the awful lot of bad. And I realise that they did the best they could as they came from shitty backgrounds too and didn’t have the ability to break the cycle. I decided not to have kids as I am breaking that cycle.
I guess I’m saying perhaps you mom went through a similar background and although it doesn’t excuse it, it explains it more for your peace of mind than hers though.
Edit: for context. I saw my dad beat my mum for years. When that stopped I saw my mum beat my dad and worse bully him. Other things like she had me kick down doors looking for my dad and generally was a warzone we grew up in.