Oh that’s a good call! I’ll take a look. Thanks.

I hadn’t considered checking out the communities for some of the widely used homelab applications like Proxmox. That’s a great idea, thanks.

I kind of miss the message board era of the internet. Those niche communities could be really useful.

I’m still using public trackers. Maybe after I get my network setup I’ll invest some time into finding a good private tracker or two to join.

YouTube has been useful. Mostly as a way to filter out unreliable info. I’ve had best luck with creators who have actually written out a guide and are then making a video companion for it. Anyone who goes through the trouble to do both tends to be serious about what they are talking about.

But it’s not a great way to ask questions and get answers. Hmmm, I say that, but to be honest I haven’t checked the comments on those videos. Maybe it is a good way to have a dialogue and I just haven’t seen it

I agree with you there. It seems like communities need a certain mass to feel right and above or below that it’s time to split or consolidate.

I can imagine the mods making a rule like #3 to help avoid taking traffic from the hardware-specific communities.

There are literally 100s of dads out there doing this and worse right now. It sounds like you’re a great dad almost every day. That much is obvious from the things you’ve said. This was a bad day for you. It’s okay to have bad days.

I’m willing to bet that if you’re the kind of person to think about this enough to write it out, then you’ll also certainly think about what worked and didn’t work today. You’ll come up with solutions. Either you’ll change yourself or you’ll change something about the family dynamic to ensure that it doesn’t get this bad again. I believe in you; you’ll come away from this better than before.

And never forget that parenting is hard. Much harder than any person realizes before they are a parent. It’s okay to fail at doing hard things some times. Just don’t stop putting in the effort. You’ve got this. We’re cheering for you.